Everything
is a process. Everything. Growing up is a process. Education is a process.
Learning is a process. Making a baby, birthing a baby, and raising a baby are a
process. Getting your nails done,
getting a tattoo, getting a haircut are a process. Getting ready for the day is
a process. Getting ready for bed is a process.
Forgiving, healing, grieving are a process. Sickness is a process. Marriage is a process. Divorce is a process.
Your relationship with God is a process. Communication is a process. Respect is
a process. Work is a process. Writing is a process. Reading is a process. Death
is a process. Building fence is a process. Teaching is a process. Fighting
cancer is a process. Love is a process.
Smell what I’m steppin’ in?
This has been on my mind lately. I mean, nothing ever just is, nothing ever just happens, and it
just gets redundant (for me). Maybe you
have never thought about it, but truly everything
takes time. Plus, if you are going to do things right, it takes effort. There are some processes that never end-until
you die- like learning, maturing, or your relationship with God. Some processes
are no fun-like divorce, healing, or grieving.
Some are super fun-like making a baby or getting your nails done. Nevertheless, they all require process and
correct process or it is frustrating. Some processes take more effort than
others, such as parenting, marriage, communication, and respect.
Well, I am freakin tired of the process. Anybody with me? Like, I got a tattoo which was fun and all,
but now I have a healing process. I am a
parent-which is a tiresome, joyous, horrible, and exciting experience all at
the same time. Raising my boys to be
godly men is a process that takes much effort, prayer, crying, and laughing. My marriage is a process, one that sometimes
feels more like work than for enjoyment.
I feel like my marriage is so different from anybody else’s. Blake and I have NOTHING in common, other
than we are so in love with God, each other and our kids. That should be enough I feel like, but lately
I’m aggravated with this process. Our communication, respect, love, and
affection are things that we see differently and have to learn how to work that
out. What I don’t understand is that
others are going through the same process-marriage- and I don’t know how they
do it. Sometimes I want to tell people that marriage is a trap. Other times I’m
so keen on it that I want to be encouraging to others and their marriages. I feel like I know what doesn’t work but the
times I’m frustrated, the times I need to know where others are at in their
process to make me feel better, the times I need assurance, where are those
people? I think the uncomplicated processes like putting on make-up are easy to
share because they aren’t really personal.
The more complex processes like marriage or divorce, respect or
communication, or death aren’t talked about as much because it is personal,
private, and humans build up walls. I have been guilty of this myself and I
find myself wondering why I don’t have more guidance on such things. I’m like, well
I don’t share these things, why should I expect other people to?
Overcoming the frustration is attainable when I
think that this life will end. That I should enjoy the processes while I can.
That a vacation is needed to throw process out the window for a week and I’ll
be fine. That one day, I will be in
Heaven and the only thing I will do is praise and worship my God. We are required to share the process of our
relationship with God with others-how we got where we are, where we are, and
where we want to go. To fight complacency and to desire the fire. I do find comfort in this thought. I also
find comfort in knowing that others are going through the same processes as me;
I guess I just want to know more about theirs.
Process is defined as “a systematic series of
actions directed to some end.” I like
the “end” part. I’m excited that some
things I am going through will end-like Raphe teething; other processes I am
content with and know that they are a part of life; other processes in my life,
such as my family members fighting cancer are things I’m struggling with and I
am praying through them. My question is what process are you in that you are
frustrated with? What process are you in that you are enjoying? What process
have you been through that you can share with others? What process are you in
that you need guidance with?
I hope this made sense….
